A person who has lost all joy in life. A person who sees no purpose in life any longer. A person who hurts the people around her with her negligence and despise. A person who hurts herself. A person who will take no help from anyone. A person who drags everyone around down with her. A person who doesn’t care about anyone or anything anymore. A person who cannot be reached. A person who has blocked out all emotions . A person who has no dreams or ambitions. A person who have lost all hope.
What do you do with a person like that?
Do you walk away even though it hurts you? – Do you accept that you have done all you could and that nothing can be done as long as she doesn’t want any help and as long as she is not ready to take the first step herself?
Or do you hold desperately on? Do you keep trying even if you know it is a hopeless endeavor? Do you keep fighting even if you are dragged down and into the desperation in the process?
Do you hold on – or do you let go?
After reading the post I thought I have to write something. After staring for five minutes in the comment box, I found that I have nothing to say. Some questions I believe are bigger than to be answered. Okay, maybe this does not make sense.
When a person loses hope he/she loses the desire to continue in life. With no hope we lose it. How to convince someone to restore hope needs a magical wand. But to answer your question we need to ask ourselves how far we will go to help a friend/relative to restore hope back again. It is not easy to answer.
Depression can really be debilitating and it’s great to hear other stories about the experiences they went through. Sometimes just hearing from someone else that shares, or can empathize, with your pain can mean the world.
I hope others find your site as useful as I have.
Cheers,
David
http://www.allthingsdepression.com
I think @jaraad said it all for me “us”
Thank you all for your comments. I can understand why you, Jaraad, would sit and stare for 5 minutes…I wouldn’t know what to write either if I were you. Because there really isn’t anything to say. There isn’t anything to do. When you have tried all there is to do – then there is nothing left to do but to decide if you are going to let it influence on your life as well. You have to decide whether you will stick around and take whatever good experience you might be able to get – or if you should get out while you can and not allow your self to be dragged down in the mud. And I still have that choice to make. It has been more than 15 years now – and I still haven’t made a definitive choice.
1- strip them of some of their life’s comforts, or
2- take them somewhere where the sun shines brighter *it’s hormonal*, or
3- give them a cause to pursue, or
4- take them as they are, for this is who they are and what they want to be, just like grumpy or optimistic or sarcastic people, or
5- take them to some under developed country, or Jordan.
I came to this blog because I am one who has completely given up, possibly not completely if I bothered to get here.
I don’t believe that I would accept anyone’s attempt to dissuade me of this feeling so I don’t think that there is anything that you can do. On the other hand, it is totally your choice of whether you are dragged down by this person. This is not to say it is easy to live with someone that you describe. In my case, I am trying to minimize all contact with others so as to reduce damaging them but am not sure if this is the best approach.
Good luck to you and to whoever it is that you describe.