Every day we think about people. We think of people we love. People we miss. And we might get very sad doing that. We might get sad if we know we are thinking about people who are not thinking about us.
That is the worst.
Knowing that you are spending your time and mental energy thinking about someone who is not thinking of you in return. Missing someone who is not missing you.
And you might get angry with yourself for doing it. For thinking it. But it is impossible to stop. Because if people matter, they will fill your mind.
And opposite. The same goes for mattering to them and filling their minds. If you matter. You will. If you don’t. You won’t.
That is the sad part.
But there is no point in being angry with yourself. Give yourself credit for allowing people to matter to you. For allowing yourself to care for them. Nothing wrong with that.
Remind yourself that every day is different. You might be thinking of someone today who is not thinking of you. But tomorrow it might be reversed.
And remind yourself that every person is different. You might be thinking of someone who is not thinking of you. But I guarantee you that someone is also thinking of you without you thinking of them. And I bet there are more than you think.
So don’t feel sad. Someone is thinking of you. Maybe someone you would never imagine. Maybe someone you have never noticed. Maybe a stranger. Maybe a friend. Maybe a lover. Maybe.
And hopefully someone is thinking of me too.
Sometimes when I am out with friends – i make a toast to those who “love us” to those who “are thinking of us” and are not “with us”.
A nice gesture. For all the people you don’t know are thinking of you. Repaying the thought somehow.
Well , I am thinking of you now . Like Rami, I like to drink to ‘ absent friends ‘
In the greater scheme of things it does not matter to me if the other person is thinking of me or not as I like the practice of unconditional giving and unconditional love ; no strings attached. The Universe has a way of balancing the books that seems to work . .
“But I guarantee you that someone is also thinking of you without you thinking of them. And I bet there are more than you think. ”
Correct conclusion
*nods* we are on the same page , Ana
Nice post. I am actually one of the people who think a lot about his friends and people in his life. For that reason, I usually like to limit the number of my friends to a small number. To me, a friendship is a time consuming thing, and I cannot afford to have many of them. Actually, some time in my early teens I adopted a system where if I find that I miss someone a lot, it means that I have to end my friendship with them, because that means that I think about them more than they think about me.
To me, missing someone is a very negative sign if there is no really good reason for not seeing that person.
I guess that system worked fine for young age and into university, but after that it is a very harsh system because once people get older they tend to not care about other people as much, and are busy with work and similar stuff. This is my general experience.
For some odd reason I find myself spending a lot more time thinking about bad people instead of thinking about good ones. I think about creating ways and means to protect myself from their sinister intents. I think about building invisible fire walls and encircle myself with it so whenever they think about hurting me they will get burned before they reach me.